There was another excellent SoLife at NTAchannel9 Television program on 30th of January 2021.
The Guest was Mrs Afolayan Oyebimpe, Women Leader Kwara State Deaf Women Association and the topic they discussed was “How to stop abuse of women with disability in marriage”.
During the discussion, she affirmed that women with disabilities are also entitled to happy marriage because marriage is divine and they are God’s creature , therefore they are not less human, despite their disability ,all the senses are working very fine. Women with disabilities are beautiful ,hard working, kind hearted and most especially very good in bed. But because of disability, people look down on them and many remain unmarried and suffering in silence
She said that some that married women with disabilities think they were doing them favor by marrying them but that is not true,it’s not a favor ,it’s their right to get married and have a say in the marriage and not to be enslaved.
uses her own case as an example, that women with disability are caring, she said for the past 18years her mother inlaw is staying in their home and she is taking good care of her,
she is also a farmer,civil servant and train herself to become excellent in her field.
she is also a farmer,civil servant and train herself to become excellent in her field.
She advocated for people to stop stigmatizing women with disabilities when it comes to marriage,no matter the disability ,a woman with disability can be a good wife
Afolayan appealed to families, in-laws and friends that normally discourage people that are interested in marrying women with disabilities to stop such attitude so far they are in love.
The most painful thing, she expressed her displeasure on men that deceive women with disabilities that they will marry them but after impregnating them they will run away and not care for them
She frown at various maltreatment of women and girls with disabilities such as turning them into punching bag, insulting them, discriminating against them, deceiving them, not caring for them, looking down on them and many more, all these should stop.
She frown at various maltreatment of women and girls with disabilities such as turning them into punching bag, insulting them, discriminating against them, deceiving them, not caring for them, looking down on them and many more, all these should stop.
She encouraged women with disabilities not to sell themselves cheap to men, they should insist on legal marriage before going into sex, she said they should not be in too much haste and fall into wrong hands but they should brace up and present themselves well.
She laid emphasis on men to stop deceit, she narrated an incident where man without disability marry deaf but because the wife can’t hear,he will bring girl friend to the house and be discussing and deceive the wife because she can’t hear. She said fear of God is very important.
The presenter Joy Bolarin of Empower Project TV Program added her own voice narrating the story of a beautiful lady that develop spinal cord injury because of accident ,due to the disability no husband to marry her, the members of the community should note that disability can happen to anyone.
There are several calls from the viewers during the program ,some encourage people with disability not to look down on themselves because appearance has a lot to do with how one will be addressed, another caller encourage women with disabilities to be of good characters and not picking quarel with people in their environment, she said they should be friendly and of good characters because it will help them to get responsible man that will be ready to marry them.
All hands must be on deck to make life better for women and girls with disability and stop violence against them
